Auditing Yourself - Are You Someone Else's Loser Friend? - #029
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The saying is true, you are the average of your 5 closest friends. But before you start auditing that group and deciding who you might want to drop, it's important to take a good look at yourself. Are you adding value to and increasing the average of your group or are you attracting negative people because you're the same way?
It is Monday January 15th and I'm Josh Newton.
Welcome to the I'm Josh Newton Show where it is all about putting your potential into practice.
Today I want to talk about auditing yourself.
I was listening to The Crazy Asian podcast the other day and Sherman On who's the host of that show with talking a bit about making sure you have the right people in your life. The right relationships to make sure that you're being supported from a business and personal standpoint. And so he talked about something I think a lot of people talk about which is that your kind of the average of the five closest people around you. And that's why it's really important to make sure that you are spending time with the right people whether that's your family whether that's the people that you bring around you by design or your friends or just the people that you even work with or that you associate with at work. There's a lot that goes into your friend group and there's a lot that you get out of that friend group that can really affect you and kind of determine whether you're successful or whether you're accomplishing the things that you want to accomplish in your life.
And one of the things that I think people don't necessarily focus on when they're talking about this is making sure that you're the type of person you want to be first. They don't talk about auditing yourself first. And when I called in to Sherm's podcast I actually framed this in the form of a question I said, "are you somebody else's loser friend?"
This comes from something that some of you may have heard before it's something that Gary Vaynerchuk says which is if you want to see a major Improvement in your life you should drop one loser friend, and pick up one winner friend. I think this is really great advice, but what I think some people should do first is actually look at themselves and say, "am I somebody else's loser friend?" Am I the person who is attracting other people who are complaining and not winning and not really getting stuff done in their lives? Are people like that attracted to me because I'm putting off the same energy?
And so when you're really thinking about your friend group and the people that you spend your time with I think it's really important just a focus on first, am I the type of person that those people want around before you start thinking about are those the type of people that I want around?
Instead of ending the session with something to ponder or a question I really just want to put this challenge out to you: Before you start auditing your friend group and the people that you spend time with try looking at yourself first and say am I somebody that is increasing the average in the groups of people that I spend time with? Am I adding value to those people and am I somebody that, if they were auditing their friend group, they would definitely want to keep around? Because, if you're that type of person you're opening the door then to have those types of people in your life and to have them around and start to up that average and create a really good group of people that can support each other and really see each other succeed instead of bringing each other down.
As always I would love to hear what you guys think and I would love your input. If you're listening to this on Anchor, you can give me a call in or leave me a comment and if you're listening to it on social media or on the podcast you can find me on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram under I'm Josh Newton.
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